“I have a friend with 2 kids in 2 different daycares costing untold organizational nightmares and $2400 per month so she and her husband can work full time at jobs they don’t really like so they can try to keep their heads financially above water. What kind of life is this?!”

“I have a friend with 2 kids (one just a year) in 2 different daycares costing untold organizational nightmares and $2400 per month so she and her husband can work full time at jobs they don’t really like so they can try to keep their heads financially above water. The dream of a home is still there but the townhome they bought 8 years ago is all they can really afford. They spend 3-4 hours a day with their kids, a few hours in the morning getting them fed and dressed to go to daycare and a few hours in the evening getting them fed and bathed and ready for bed. What kind of life is this?!
And then there are the Bumfuzzles – live on a 44 foot boat in Mexico, spend all their time with their kids and each other, live with less, work for themselves, love their life.
I know which life I’d choose. The idea that you need 3+ bedrooms and 2+ bathrooms and a big yard and stuff and debt is wrong for so many people but they don’t even know it.”

terminalcitygirl at VREAA 5 may 2012 1:11pm

5 responses to ““I have a friend with 2 kids in 2 different daycares costing untold organizational nightmares and $2400 per month so she and her husband can work full time at jobs they don’t really like so they can try to keep their heads financially above water. What kind of life is this?!”

  1. For most the cutover is somewhere between 2 and 3. Many end up using the ‘rents… so to speak.

  2. Wouldn’t an at home foreign nanny @ $1500 month + $300 tax to government be cheaper and better? Or have the mom stay home assuming her take home after tax pay is $3000 then the childcare cost, the car and gas costs, and other work related costs probably equals to her take home pay. A $3000 after tax take home pay is pretty high in Vancouver??

  3. Humans are easily coerced into pursuing expectations, ceremonies for acceptance in the tribe. Not everyone is the same, but if your friends lived in Lillooet, it would be more likely that mom kept a couple horses and dad owned a fancy snowmobile to keep up with the Jones’. It’s a shame your friends got caught up in a superficial debt-based system of self-gratification. Better luck next journey. We hired a wonderful nanny from south east Asia and when she had to return home, we sorely missed her. Since, my wife and I alternated as stay at home parents and included some quality pre=school to provide our children with the best we could. However, the children were our primary focus, not real estate.

  4. Our friends recently moved from East Van to White Rock, so that they could afford a house. They’ve put their kid in daycare in White Rock, and they commute to work in Vancouver. They commute by bus, because it costs too much to drive & park. The commute is ~2 hours each way on transit. So 8 hours working + 4 hours commuting = 12 hours. That doesn’t leave much time for regular household stuff, let alone family stuff like seeing their kid! They both need to work, even though the wife doesn’t make much money, because they need the marginal $300/month that the wife makes (after subtracting daycare & commuting costs) to keep up with their mortgage.

    Not a life I’d like to live…

    • Insanity.

      I recently did a stint in South Surrey. Commuting in to Vancouver by bus. Yes, at least 1.5 hours each way. Usually more.

      In the rain.

      Why people want to do this for the rest of their working lives is beyond me.

      Move, folks. There is hope beyond Hope.

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